It’s already Wednesday! Yesterday did not go as planned 100% of the time, but you know what? It’s ok. It happens, and today Dan talks about what went right, what went wrong, and shares a tip on how to handle it when someone tries to bring you down. Check out the website for more content www.bcbousa.com
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Hello and welcome to BCBO Daily. It is Wednesday May 12th and I’m your host Dan Murch. Back as we get to the middle of the week as we like to say, grinding through it and ready to jump into today and get started. So, yesterday was a pretty good day, it was a mixed bag. We’re going to get to that, but there were some really good things that happened. I had a great conversation with one of our clients going over finances, job costing, things of that nature. As I say all the time I absolutely love having those conversations. Also just in the day-to-day stuff, got a ton of stuff done, got to do some really cool exciting stuff on Blue Collar side for big picture longer-term goal stuff. Again, it’s been a topic now for a week and a half and I got to spend some time doing that and that’s all stuff that I really enjoyed.
So, overall it was a good day, it just had some down moments and that’s going to be the topic of conversation for today but we’ll get to that later. I’m not going to let it be a negative podcast or negative day. Today is a new day and I have woken up with a brand new attitude and I’m not letting whatever struggles happened yesterday carry into today and now bring down 2 days. That’s kind of the idea of what we talked about with habit-forming and things of that nature. The idea is to not let something that happens spill over into the next day and the next day and now all of a sudden you’ve developed a bad habit. So, what happened yesterday kind of got under my skin a little bit because there’s just certain people that have the ability to find the negative in anything and it’s really frustrating. You present something to somebody and you’re really excited about it and they find a way to knock you down a peg or as I like to say they piss in your Cheerios. Sometimes it’s hard, but you can only control what you do, you can’t control what somebody else does. That old saying you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.
So as you encounter these people throughout the day, and you’re going to – they exist all over the place, Gina and I did a whole podcast about it a couple months ago. They’re all over the place and they could be that way for many reasons. They could do it because they’re just looking out for you and don’t want you to get hurt because they’re afraid that you’re going to fail. It could just be that that’s their personality, they carry a lot of negative energy around and that’s how they function. Again, it’s not my job to tell somebody how to live their life. That’s not what I’m here to do, that’s never the point of these podcasts. My point is to kind of just share the things that I’m doing; some of them are working really well for me, some of them are works in progress and I might give you a different idea next week. I don’t know, but there are things that I’m learning from people that I consider to be very knowledgeable, and doing research on it and that’s why I do it and that’s why I send it to you. Hopefully it’s helping everybody along the way.
How do you deal with somebody who has that negative energy and how do you deal with the lows in the day? Every day has some right and we talk everyday about how everything’s not going to go right. Besides just saying to yourself – okay we’re going to figure it out – which is a good thing to do, how do you stop yourself from starting spiral and having one bad day becoming a terrible next day and terrible week? I got a few tips and suggestions of what works for me. One of them is kind of just giving yourself a reset. If you end up having a conversation with somebody that just gets under your skin and annoys you and put you in a bad frame of mind and knocks the wind out of your sails and like I said knock you down a peg it’s really easy to let that energy carry you for the rest of the day. It’s hard to break. It’s hard to move on to something else. It’s hard to lift yourself back up, but it’s kind of important to do. Not kind of important to do, it’s really important.
For me, I take a little break. I’m not saying go take an hour off or you know go to the pool or anything like that. I’ll take even if it’s 30 seconds, I’ll just take 30 seconds and I will stop doing everything else. Won’t look at my computer, won’t look at my phone. Just take 30 seconds, close my eyes, take a couple deep breaths. I’m not going total yoga on you, but just deep breaths kind of clear my mind. Try to think of something happy. Try to think of something that went well in the day. If it’s early in the day when it happens, try to think of something that went really well yesterday or try to think of something you are really looking forward to doing later on in the day. Silly as that may sound, again it may sound like you are just tricking your brain, it does help just take that 30 seconds and just instead of thinking about whatever’s got you angry think about something that can’t help it make you smile.
If it’s a person in your life that as soon as you think about them it makes you smile, great. If it’s an activity that you do that as soon as you think about doing it it makes you smile, great. Just take 30 seconds and do it. It’s not going to wipe away all of all the problems. Not going to wipe away all of your anger or all of your annoyance or whatever else you want to call it, but it can help stop your brain from getting any worse. Stop you from continuing to get more angry and taking it out of the next thing you do or the next person that you have a conversation with. You don’t want to create an argument all over the place because you’re really angry at person A and now you’re having these bickering conversations that person’s B, C, and D. That’s why you want to try to stop it. You want to try to stop that momentum of negative energy and that’s something that I have found has works for me. Some days it works better than others, but yesterday and this morning it helped and like I said it’s a new day. I’m not going to let whatever happened yesterday bring me down. I’m going to go into today with a brand new fresh attitude. Like I say every day, this is why we go over this stuff, it’s not always going to go right but there were successes yesterday. There were things that went really really well so last night that’s what I chose to focus on. Focused on the things that brought me joy and my productivity.
Again, I know I talk about it a lot, but today that’s kind of it in practice. So that is what I want to talk about today. Nothing really new or earth-shattering, but hopefully that little tip helps somebody. It certainly helps me. Not 100% of the time, but helps a lot, and it only takes 30 seconds. Or a little bit shorter or a little bit longer depending on what you want to do. Again, don’t just close up for the day and go hang out at the beach, but try this and see if it helps you.
All right guys, so that’s it, that’s our Wednesday. We got a new day, we got a new opportunity, let’s go out and let’s pay the rent on our success. Let’s get things done, let’s make it a great positive and productive day. Let’s keep asking ourselves that question – how would the person I want to be handle the thing I am about to do? Keep putting ourselves in that forward-thinking mindset. Keep pulling ourselves forward towards our goals.
The topic of the entire conversation today – things aren’t going to go right. There’s going to be problems, but it’s going to be ok. We’re going to figure it out. We’re going to get things done. At the end of the day we’ll figure out where we need to make adjustments, but like I said let’s make sure we are seeking out the successes in her day because they are there. They do exist so let’s find them. We are working hard. We are good people. We deserve to be happy. We deserve the good things in life so let’s find them and celebrate them and be good to ourselves. Let’s limit that negative self-talk, it does not help us at all.
And lastly, as always, go check out the website bcbousa.com. That’s where you can get all the good good and that’s it guys. That’s Wednesday. We are already on the downhill towards the weekend again let’s go have a great day. Let’s get a lot of stuff done, and we’ll be back tomorrow for my favorite work day of the week on Thursday. Thank you for your time guys, have a great day. Bye